Relationship Break Up Advice
Learning when to end a relationship is among the most difficult things I have had to do. Growing up, I was somewhat of a serial dater. I absolutely had to be in a relationship day in and day out, because I really enjoyed the feeling of companionship. I didn’t have the best taste in women however, and was perpetually receiving unwanted relationship break up advice from my friends and family members. As a whole, I was good humored about it; I knew they were just trying to help me end a relationship that they thought wasn’t good for me.
However, I would hardly ever take their relationship break up advice. I would stay in pretty unhealthy relationships for far too long.
When I was 20, I was on my own without dating women for around six months – something that was rare for me. My relationships weren’t working, and I knew that I had to get to know myself, and my needs before I could be with anybody else again. One of my friends, a good guy who had tried to give me a relationship advice before, was going through a sturdy time with his girlfriend. He thought that he should try once more to make it work, but listening to his description of her,I knew it was over. I gave him the same relationship break up advice that so many people had given me before: if you think that things need to change, and she won’t even talk to you about making the change, there’s nothing else you can do; the relationship is over.
When my friend pointed out the irony of me giving this advice, I really had to ponder. I suddenly realized that I knew the difference between a good relationship and a bad relationship, and I even knew when to break up. I could give sound relationship break up advice, but for some reason, couldn’t hear it when other people gave the same advice to me. I was eventually learning.
These days, whenever I am having relationship problems, I sit down, have a drink, and talk to myself, as if I were somebody else. I know it sounds strange, but it works; I give myself the relationship break up advice,I would give to a friend in my position. Occasionally, I realize that I really can save the relationship but other times, I understand that things are too far gone. Maybe the girlfriend and I don’t have a great deal in common, maybe she has done something very hurtful and feels no need to make it up to me, or maybe I’m just not ready for the level of commitment she desires. Either way, I have learned to break things off at the right time.
